Being vulnerable means being in control of yourself, not being in control of the relationship. Yes, it can feel safer to be with a man (or woman) you think you can control. ... By being vulnerable, you're more likely to gain a relationship that's emotionally and spiritually fulfilling, and lasts a lifetime.

In group session today we talked about men not expressing vulnerability during the sobriety process.  Men tend to be fixers, not listeners.  When approaching alcohol recovery, being vulnerable can help you heal.  

8 Beautiful Signs He's Being Vulnerable With You

  1. He listens. ...
  2. He acts nervous or hesitant. ...
  3. He shares a secret or personal detail from his past. ...
  4. He tells you when something's bothering him. ...
  5. He has a conversation with you in an intimate place or position. ...
  6. He brings up an ex or past relationship. ...
  7. He asks you deep questions about your life or past.